SECOND GENERATION RELATING™

A New Way of Healing Our Connections

Second Generation Relating™ is relationship healing for individuals, couples, and any two people who share ongoing connection.
Whether you’re untangling a romantic dynamic, repairing a parent–child rupture, healing a friendship, or learning to show up differently in your next relationship, Second Generation Relating™ teaches you to relate from the core self instead of the conditioned self.

What Makes Second Generation Relating™ Different?

Most relationship work focuses on communication skills.
Second Generation Relating™ goes deeper.

At the root of every conflict are:

  • the nervous system

  • lineage patterns

  • inherited roles

  • emotional ghosts from earlier relationships

  • generational rules about how to love, need, speak, or stay silent

SGR helps you see and shift the patterns that live beneath the surface so every relationship in your life becomes more honest, more grounded, and more true.

Who This Work Is For

Second Generation Relating™ is designed for anyone who wants to create relationships rooted in truth, presence, and emotional clarity. This work is meaningful for:

  • Individuals who want to break longstanding relational patterns

  • Couples navigating conflict, disconnection, or repair

  • Parent–adult child pairs seeking healing, understanding, or reconnection

  • Siblings addressing old wounds or unspoken roles

  • Friends working through ruptures, misunderstandings, or drifting apart

  • Co-parents who want to communicate with more steadiness and less reactivity

  • Any two people with ongoing personal connection and a shared desire to grow

This work is for anyone who wants relationships that feel honest, grounded, and aligned with the core self.

The Three Pillars of Second Generation Relating™

1. Truth Over Tolerance

Closeness isn’t built by avoiding discomfort—
it’s built by telling the truth early and often.

SGR helps you:

  • speak your needs without collapse or attack

  • identify the real emotion beneath the story

  • stop performing the role you were raised to play

  • recognize fear-based reactions as they arise

This pillar changes everything.

2. Regulated Presence → Regulated Partnership

The relationship can’t be healthier than the nervous systems running it.

In SGR, you learn to:

  • return to the body when you’re activated

  • pause instead of reacting from fear

  • identify when the conditioned self is in control

  • practice presence as the foundation of repair

Presence comes before communication.
Presence is the repair.

3. Attachment Meets Lineage

Your relationship patterns didn’t begin with your partner.
They began with your childhood.

SGR helps you uncover:

  • the lineage rules you were taught about love

  • the roles you played to stay safe

  • the emotional echoes shaping your reactions

  • the wounds you bring into every connection

This pillar rewires the foundation of your relational life.

What This Work Looks Like

In session, you can expect a balance of:

Somatic Awareness

Locating activation in the body instead of getting lost in the story.

Truth-Telling Practices

Learning to speak from the core self with clarity and steadiness.

Pattern Mapping

Understanding the ghosts, roles, and beliefs shaping your reactions.

Relational Repair Rituals

Developing new tools for reconnection, accountability, and compassion.

Deep Seeing

Learning how to see and be seen without collapsing into fear or performance.

This work is grounded, direct, and deeply transformative.

How We Can Work Together

Individuals

Break patterns from the inside out.
Learn the skills of truth, presence, boundaries, and core-self leadership.

Dyads (Any Two People)

Parent and adult child. Siblings. Friends. Co-parents.
If you share personal connection, this work helps you strengthen it.

Couples

Repair conflict, rebuild trust, and understand each other through a trauma- and lineage-informed lens.

Relationship Intensives

Deep-dive sessions for moments of transition, rupture, or major relational change.

The Heart of Second Generation Relating™

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The Heart of Second Generation Relating™ *

This work is built on a simple truth:

The way you relate to others reflects the way you relate to yourself.

When you learn to lead from the core self, every relationship shifts:

  • Boundaries become clearer.

  • Truth becomes steadier.

  • Emotions become safer to share.

  • Love becomes deeper, cleaner, and more grounded.

You stop reenacting your past and begin building something new.

Begin Your Work in Second Generation Relating™

Whether you’re carrying the weight of old patterns, navigating a relationship in transition, or longing to feel more like yourself in your connections, this work meets you where you are.

You don’t need perfect relationships.
You need a path back to your true self — and a map for how to relate from there.

When you're ready, we begin.